Penn State Sex Abuse Scandal:
I am flabbergasted from reading the details of this
story. A well known and well loved coach and pillar of the community was raping little boys for decades. People knew about it and did nothing. I am disgusted at the lows of humanity. At the apparent inability to empathize or sympathize with other people; the quest for self-preservation to the point of destruction of another person’s very soul, I fear, has become a social norm. I’m not speaking of Jerry Sandusky right now. If these allegations are true then my disgust with him and his depravity should be a given on this topic. Right now I am referring to the other men in this story and their depraved indifference to the destruction of the bodies and souls of the little boys Mr. Sandusky raped. Yes I said raped. Call it involuntary deviate sexual intercourse, or unlawful contact, endangerment, or even molestation . . . all of those terms sum up the definition of rape.
Male or female, adult or child, anyone who is the involuntary recipient
of any form of sexual contact has been raped. And what I want to know is how anyone could witness a child being raped and then walk away???!!!??? How could anyone hear that a child has been raped and then forget about it???!!!??? How could a friggin football
team have more value than the soul of a little boy?
I want to know how this man sleeps at
night. Does he himself have children? If so, are/have his children been involved in activities that put them under the supervision of other adults? Does he ever wonder if that could have been one his kids that was raped and no one did anything to stop it? Does he hear in his head, the ghost sounds of that “rhythmic slapping” while memory “photos”
flash through his mind of that little boy being brutally violated by his
revered and saintly football coach. I hope whatever success he has had in his life over the last 10 years was worth the choice of inaction in a pivotal point in so many lives.
Yes, he notified Joe
Paterno of what he saw, and he was apparently “distraught” as he reported what he witnessed; but I do not understand how he walked away in the first place, when the rape was in progress and actively occurring before his eyes! Would he have kept on driving if he witnessed
a car accident, would he just stand there and watch if he saw someone stealing something in a store and run for the door? Is he a potential hit-and-run driver?
Maybe this seems like an awful lot of anger for someone who
didn’t commit the atrocities; but this McQueary fella had on opportunity to
stop a monster and he didn’t stop him. Ever act of violation that was experienced by any of Jerry Sandusky’s victims after that 2002 shower rape could have been prevented if McQueary had done something, anything different; Shouted, yelled, bumped a can, or coughed loudly, anything. Instead, his instinct told him to leave, quietly. His instinct put his concerns for himself and how his actions could affect him and his status before the welfare of a little boy. In an instant his “fight or flight” response kicked in and showed who he was, in his very core and in his very soul. Where was his moral outrage at the inactions of the university system and the lack of reports to law enforcement? How could he
continue to work for an organization that turned a blind eye to such a horrific crime? I seem to have all of the same questions that many people have asked of those working for the Catholic Church, worldwide. It is all eerily reminiscent of the scandals within the Catholic Church and the cover-up of abuse by priests. Again I wonder if the success he has enjoyed over the last 10 years has been worth knowing he could have stopped a monster from sexually violating numerous little boys.
Jerry Paterno, Gary Schultz, and Graham Spanier are all
culpable in the decades of abuse that was endured by the victims of Jerry
Sandusky. They put a football team and the reputation of a school above the safety of the children in the community. How sick are they for
allowing Sandusky to continue to work with at-risk youths ooonnn school
property!!!! How can they justify turning their heads away and lying about the raping of children???!!! Are these men just mere examples of a greater apathy and self-absorption of society as a whole? As I mentioned earlier, this is all eerily similar to the scandal within the Catholic Church, but this apathy is found everywhere. The child left for dead on a
Chinese street, the beating to death of strangers on subway platforms, and the fear of being labeled a snitch in so many inner city communities are disgusting traits of way to many parts of society.
We see this in the bullying epidemics in the schools and “trolling”* on
social networks. *from what I understand, this is where people
stalk perfect strangers as well as those known to them and harass them. I read of a family whose daughter was killed in a horrific car accident and pictures of the scene made it online. Her family received disturbing emails from people mocking her death; and false memorial sites are set up for people for the sole purpose of mocking the victim.
Is this the kind of society that we have become? Do we really want to live in a world where monsters are enabled in their pursuit of children? Do there really need to be laws enacted and policies put in place ordering us to have a moral compass and demanding that we do the right thing and fight for those who are unable to defend themselves? Sometimes it seems that empathy and compassion have been bred out of us in the quest for monetary or material success. The sense of not rocking the boat and being compliant with the status quo has skewed society’s sense
of right and wrong. Our fascination with “being the best, the richest, the most famous” has damaged our ability to communicate and connect with each other in such a way that the pain of one person is felt by everyone. The pain that we all felt on 9/11/01; the universal connection that was established in the shock and grief of those attacks on our fellow citizens, whether we personally lost anyone or not, we all connected that day. Why does it always take such tragedy to bring about such a coming together? Why couldn’t these “men” of Penn State have connected with those little boys as one human being to another human being, and stood up for them and fought for them until Sandusky was stopped?